Kids hear and a touch of feelings

So, interesting thing happened yesterday. I really needed time with God so I told Alexia to play Hillsong worship music and was praying and getting dinner in the crockpot while kids were working. Well, Joel decided it was time to change pants for the third time of the morning. If you have kids you have probably been right where I was standing in my kitchen with a screaming kid surrounded by pants and chicken juice on your hands. Especially if you have a strong willed child (God seems to bless me with those)! 😂. That child was melting down fast because his demands were not being met instantly. Well, Skillet had come on my station for some reason with their song Monster just a couple minutes before. I washed my hands and tried to calm Joel down. He wasn’t having it at first like usual if he’s not getting his own way. Well, I wasn’t going to change his jeans again. Like I said it would have been the third pair in just two hours. Not necessary. When he’s not getting his own way he will stop his meltdown sometimes and try to distract us. He said, “I feel the monster, it’s in me.” I didn’t even know he was listening to the song since he was in the next room, but he heard. He used even a Christian song and repeated the lyrics to distract me and try to get me to laugh so I’d forget I was saying no and he’d get his way. It has worked in the past for him so he keeps doing it. We are onto him though. Lol. What really stuck with me though is how much God is convicting me of the things we are watching and listening to on the tv and radio all the time. Our kids hear all! They may not be in the same room but they hear. Even as they sleep they are absorbing it. This has been a conviction for several months in my heart and yesterday truly confirmed it all. Even a Christian song and he took the words and used them as a tool to distract me because he absorbed what he heard. If we hear a song on the radio a couple of times then it gets stuck in our heads. Well, if we (our children too) hear a message on tv or language or anything even once it is in their heads, more than that it’s gonna stick! So, does that mean I’m gong to only watch the 700 club or televised preachers? Or go without tv? 😱. No! Wow! Our TVs are on all the time. We love tv, but we love God more so we will choose more wisely what we watch. At first I was really about to jump on with him telling me a feeling. We are definitely working on feelings with Joel so I was kind of happy he was using a feeling but sad he felt that way. Then I realized what he was doing. It actually did make me a little happy he didn’t use something silly from Minecraft to distract but still. So, is Skillet off the table? At first I said no more. Then I thought about it, if he heard that he’s hearing more. So no. I will pray over it and pray he gets the proper message! I think God was using this moment to confirm my convictions on child’s ears in a positive way instead of him walking around saying quotes from some secular tv show or movie. Praise Him for his conviction and confirmation!

Birthday weekend

What a fun but busy weekend!!! On Friday Hanni and I ventured out to do some birthday shopping for her party on Saturday. It was kind of spur of the moment, invite some friends over type thing because we didn’t know how Eli would be doing. Well, after we told her he started having a rough time but fortunately the few days before her party had done well and felt good. On Friday night I went to book club which was so very refreshing and wonderful!! I love my book club and the ladies in it. I have not gone in several months and was thrilled to be back. I did slip out a little early to get back home to help Randy if he needed it with Eli. On Saturday we had a slow morning but then Hanni and I headed out to pick up her cake and came home to clean the guinea pig cage. We adore our sweet Nutmeg and Noel! Then friends started showing up. Randy set up the bonfire in the yard and while Hanni and her friends walked down I drove Eli. It was so great seeing him out and about!! We roasted hotdogs and s’mores. It was funny because the boys didn’t have a clue about cooking marshmallows on the bonfire. That’s ok, the girls taught them! We made it an early party due to Randy having to work Sunday morning. I am so thankful for all of her friends and love each of them! We had a ball! Sunday was a slow day. We started our Christmas crafting and watched movies and tv. We kicked off our fall break this past weekend and Sunday was the perfect day for how it needs to be. We’ve been so busy and stressed with Eli’s surgery and just life that we just need quiet and relaxed. My fall and winter goal this year is calm. This fall break is embracing that! Family time, time for self, time for just stillness but still fun.

The morning after the big day

So yesterday was Eli’s big day. We had to be at the hospital at 6 am! We went back and forth about a hundred times over what to do with the little boys. In the end, they wanted to be there to support their brother even if it was just from the waiting room. I packed up a school bag, a toy bag, blankets, and other essentials we might need. Hanni was amazing! When we had to be back with Eli she kept the kids in the waiting room without complaint and they were so great for her! Eli was just ready to get it all over with. I was surprised they got him back so fast! I remember with Gracie we waited a few hours after her scheduled time for her to get back. This is Eli before surgery! While he was in surgery we went down to the cafe to get breakfast to bring up to the waiting room. After eating Carp did schoolwork, Hanni divided to watch The Office, and I read to Joel and he played with Legos. He was in surgery about 3 hours and everything went well! The Dr did say his knee was a mess but it’s now all fixed up and we are just praying the recovery is easy! Waiting room pics! Eli was in recovery for about an hour where Randy and Hanni took turns. I stayed with him to hear all the post op instructions. Last night was not quite as easy as the hospital. Carp was wired with energy. Joel was in full meltdown tired mode by 4:30 and asleep by 5:30. At least he slept through the night! Eli didn’t make it to his bed coming in the house but literally passed out on Randy right by our bed so we got him to our bed where he stayed several hours watching tv. He finally decided to go to his bed and had enough energy to make it! Yay! Hanni immediately came home and crashed! We were exhausted! Randy went out for Eli’s prescriptions and food which we were all so grateful for! Eli leaving the hospital and the two of us waiting for food exhausted! After a good night sleep we are up and still tired! Lol. It was a long day yesterday. Today Eli starts therapy at 3 in Spartanburg. I’m looking forward to that being done and we can relax this weekend! So, how’s Eli doing? Great! He does have a nerve block and pain ball attached to his leg right now so I’m sure that’s helping! He’s in typical Eli’s happy spirits. He gets cold easily but a lot of that is the ice machine they have hooked up to him. He was very complimentary to the nurses yesterday when coming off anesthesia which is so him! He told me to tell Hannah she sucks when they were wheeling him back to surgery which she loved hearing! 🤷‍♀️🙄. I’m guessing that’s a compliment to them? He says he’s not really in any pain just itchy. He’s not a fan of the nerve block because it’s a purse with a big ball that he has to maneuver around and it’s hard to get comfortable with it constantly under his arm but I told him that’s why he has no pain so he’s dealing with it. Other than that, he’s doing great! We are thankful Randy is home until the weekend to help out as well!!